Your First Dance As Husband & Wife.
Whether you want to put together a high energy dance routine or enjoy an intimate moment with your new spouse, your first dance is definitely not the time to be generic. There is no "one size fits all perfect song" and there is no rule for how this needs to look. What matters most is that it's a moment for you.
Instead of looking through lists of popular first dance songs, we recommend choosing a song that reflects your relationship as a couple. Try to pick something that really means something to you. As Mona from Birds & Honey says “Trendy songs come and go so choose this one wisely. Pick something that will stand the test of time and speak to all generations." It doesn't matter what everyone else thinks of it, you are the ones who will remember your first dance for the rest of your life. So go with what you want.
Also remember to plan your outfit accordingly. There's nothing worse than trying to execute complicated dance moves when you're constantly tripping on your dress (especially if you plan to take your shoes off during the reception)! You really don't want to be struggling through the entire dance and not enjoying the moments!
Our first dance was actually the very FIRST time Tim and I ever successfully danced together! Previous attempts usually ended up with lots of stepping on toes (it was not entirely my fault!!) and falling off balance, so I was slightly nervous about how our first dance would go. But honestly, we were so in sync that day and so thoroughly enjoying our reception that we rocked our first dance! We were smooth and fluid. Tim even threw in a few dips and twirls - I'm pretty sure feeling amazing in my dress helped me loosen up enough to go with it successfully! (That and the fact that no one could see my feet under the dress!) The feeling of twirling and swaying together mixed with the glowy haze of wedding day delight surrounded by people we love is one of my favourite memories from our wedding.
Don't waste those moments talking the entire time. Live the moment. So many couples spend their dance talking or frowning while discussing details that need to happen and honestly, this isn’t the time for that! This is your moment. Savour how it feels. Snuggle each other close and make it a memory to cherish for your lifetime.
Its so easy to start going over what still needs to be done during your dance when no one else is interrupting you or pulling on you or needing answers (Though seriously, this is why you should think about investing in a qualified wedding planner!! So you don't have these things on your mind to begin with!! But that's a topic for another day :) If you are managing all these details yourselves, try to plan 10-20 minutes of alone time in your schedule so you can take a breather and discuss all those pertinent details without missing out on the special moments of your day. Trust me, the memories are worth it - and your photographs will be SO much better without those serious problem solving discussions happening on the dance floor!
Similarly, when thinking about doing a Father/Daughter Dance and Mother/Son Dance, choose a song that is meaningful to you both. Perhaps a song that your dad (or mom) sang to you as a child or something you both danced to in your pyjamas growing up! There are no set rules. This is a time to honour that special relationship between you and your parent (or both parents - who says they both can’t dance with you at the same time!
Personally, I always tear up at a meaningful father/daughter dance. I have amazing memories of my own father and every single time I hear a song that talks about a dad's love I tear up thinking about how precious it is. Even though my dad passed away long before my wedding, I love seeing other people take this moment to enjoy and celebrate this precious relationship if they have it. Its so worth it.
One of our beautiful brides last year chose Amazing Grace as her father/daughter dance song because it was the song her dad sang to her when she'd wake up at night. It became a treasured memory for her that spoke of the love and support she experienced from him. Another bride actually chose to dance with both her parents at the same time, because it meant something to them. The solidarity of a lifetime loving and supporting each other through ups and downs and in between moments. So for your wedding day, plan something that fits you and your family. Don't worry about tradition or what people will think. Simply choose what is meaningful to you.
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